Having a conversation about care homes can be sensitive, as it often involves emotional, financial, and logistical considerations. Whether you’re discussing the possibility with a loved one, a caregiver, or other family members, approaching the topic with empathy and preparation is key.

It can be difficult to be reminded that we are getting older and admitting that we need help can be difficult for anyone. For many individuals, the idea of moving to a care home evokes feelings of fear and loss of independence. Approach the conversation with patience, ensuring that the other person feels heard and respected, this is a two-way conversation and no one likes to feel that they have no control or say in their own future.

Getting ready for a discussion

Timing and environment can greatly influence the tone of the discussion. Select a quiet, private setting where everyone involved feels comfortable and free from distractions, the individual’s home is usually a good place. A relaxed, casual environment can help make the conversation feel less confrontational and ensure the individual feels safe and secure.

Thin about what you plan to discuss beforehand, specific concerns you might have, issues raised by professionals and the range of options you see before you. If you’re specifically discussing moving into a care home then having information to hand may be helpful. Try not to overwhelm them and be prepared to listen to their own ideas, concerns and solutions.

Having the discussion

Try to limit the number of people involved, having the entire family approach someone might make them feel attacked and make it difficult to have an earnest discussion. Keeping the conversation gentle and light is advised, it can be a tricky subject to face but the truth is that needing help with care is perfectly reasonable.

People might react with anger or close down the conversation immediately, stay calm and be empathetic towards their situation, they may need time to think things through and will likely be more open to the conversation once they’ve had time to consider it.

 

Having resources to hand can help everyone involved to understand the situation and help with how overwhelming the situation can feel. We have gathered some Resources which might help you and your loved ones to understand what help is available.